Dad

WOW today is the day December 5th thirty seven years ago I lost my father to cancer. I remember it so vividly, the call from mom to come and meet at the hospital. Of course, it was warp speed. I picked mom up first and tried not to speed to the hospital where dad had been fighting heroically the metastasis of lung cancer. My brother hurried as well along with my sister scurrying too, to be there for the moment of departure. It was almost like putting dad on a train and the steam coming out from underneath it. The whistle blowing.

We entered the room, sometimes one by one only to see the truth before us. Mom trying to be the pillar of strength, although underneath, we sensed the chill of loss she was experiencing.

As the curtain closed for us all, we left the hospital and entered the parking lot not speaking a word. We were like a pack, walking side by side and close, letting the Alpha lead, mom. We now lost the head of the family pack. While walking out in the late night hours, we could hear a clang of the flag pole and the wind in the night. As cold as it was, in our own individual ways skipped along on light air, relieved, knowing the suffering was over and our anticipation of death, came to an end. Now we realized more than ever, as the cliche goes, “it was the beginning of the end”.

For 37 years, his body and soul haven’t be ravaged by that hideous disease, cancer.

We are well, dad…..as I know you are.

Indoor Blooms 1 (c)

Indoor Blooms 1 (c)

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The Worst Parenting Advice

1. Prepare your kids to fail ~ Nonsense ~ Prepare them to pick themselves up again

2. Sleep when the baby sleeps ~ Nonsense ~ If you have a restless baby thats the worst time to sleep. What if the baby decides to cook supper? 

3. Enjoy every minute ~ Nonsense ~ Guilt trip if your not. Who needs it?

4. Don’t worry parenting comes naturally ~ Nonsense ~ A mom can become weird in a disorder called postpartum. So pard um me?

5. If babies poop their pants, let them clean it up ~ Nonsense ~ It would be a worse mess

download (1)Unfortunately I never had children and you are wondering how know so much about it. Actually, I raise three young nieces 2-4-6 years old.

I know what poop is; I still poop.  I know what sleeping with your eyes open is; I still do. I know what baby colic is;  It rubbed off on me. Soooo who says we have to have actual experiences to know whats its all about to rear children? 

What My Mother Taught Me!

I got this off a message board. I think most of us if not all can relate to it.

What My Mother Taught Me.

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
‘If you’re going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning.’

2. My mother taught me RELIGION .
‘You better pray that this will come out of the carpet.’

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL
‘If you don’t behave, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!’

4. My mother taught me LOGIC . ‘ Because I said so, that’s why.’

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC .
‘If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not coming shopping with me.’

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
‘Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.’

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
‘Keep crying, and I’ll give you something to really cry about.’

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
‘Shut your mouth and eat your supper.’

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM .
‘Just look at that dirt on the back of your neck!’

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA
‘You’ll sit there until all that food is eaten.’

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER ..
‘This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.’

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY
‘If I told you once, I’ve told you a million times. Don’t exaggerate!’

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE .
‘I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.’

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION.
‘Stop acting like your father!’

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
‘There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do..’

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
‘Just you wait until we get home.’

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING .
‘You are going to get it when you get home!’

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
‘If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way.’

19. My mother taught me ESP .
‘Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you are cold?’

20. My mother taught me HUMOUR .
‘When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me..’

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT .
‘If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.’

22.. My mother taught me GENETICS.
‘You’re just like your father.’

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS..
‘Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn ?’

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
‘When you get to be my age, you’ll understand.’

25. My mother taught me about JUSTICE
‘One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you ‘