A new Beginning

It’s a new day and after Mondays bump in the road (fender bender) I’ve decided to do one thing at a time. Mentally I had to realize accidents happen. I was an accident at birth. An oops as they say, since my parents weren’t expecting twins. Then I came along after my sister by 3 minutes. I also had to realize accidents just don’t happen to me and that no one is out to get me. I’m almost certain that driver-less cars will change the world. Of course, who would I have talked to exchange information if the truck was driver-less? Or even mumble some lady like swear words?

Oh hum. Hope everyone is having a good day in their book of life and is driving safe defensively.


What your clothes say about you!

Does anyone realize your clothes can say a lot about you? It can say, what your employment is, emotions are, spending habits are  along with our ambitions. Then of course, we have the determining factor the “weather”. 

Shopping and spending come from emotions, experiences and culture. As the saying goes, which isn’t true, one can judge a man by his shoes and its that simple. Many Americans
use dress and style as a social and economical indicator since there is no real caste system.  Remember the black and white business affair with skirts and black heals or pumps? A little historical in today’s time, although, may still exist. Again, in the hierarchy in today’s society.  This becomes a classic because on the other hand, it always seems to work with the young, old and professional. 

Many wear just what they feel like (emotion) instantaneously. This certainly doesn’t mean one is unsuccessful only that one has not taken the time to make the effort. It does come across badly in some settings. In this case, a person should not choose to dress how one feels, but wants to feel. Which clothes make one feel powerful, in control, wealthy, and confident. Clothes send messages not only to others but ourselves. Below you will find a table that I found very interesting. This may give us some in site as to how we come across to others and how we feel about ourselves on a given day. Enjoy the day, moment and your clothes. minimonmonarch

If you …

You might …


Keep every piece of clothing you’ve ever owned

Be clinging to the past through the sentimental value of your pieces

Adopting the Golden Wardrobe Ratio: Get rid of 2 out of 3 items you own, including anything too big/small, ripped/torn or outdated.

Wear only neutrals, largely devoid of accessories

Be stuck in a psychological rut, too comfortable to shake it up, or too afraid to draw attention to yourself.

Deviating from your routine in small ways (a different route to work, a few new spring accessories–like these inexpensive ways to incorporate trendy polka dots–to jog your brain into feeling excited

Dress in clothing too large for your body

See your body differently than others see it, or as a reflection of the way it once was.

Bringing an honest friend shopping to find out what looks great on you, ignoring sizes and getting used to wearing clothes that really fit.

Have been told you’re dressed inappropriately or too sexily

Consider the same outfit appropriate for every occasion (i.e. clubbing and family barbecue), or be looking for the wrong kind of attention.

Consider the image you want to project in given situations (at work, on the town) and choose outfits based on cues from those around you

Dress too young (or too old) for your age

Be trying to express the age you feel you are, but getting caught between your actual and internal age

Gearing your outfits toward your goals (like getting a promotion, meeting a significant other, traveling the world), rather than a specific age.

Are always in work clothes

Value yourself primarily through your work and work-related accomplishments

Recognizing your talents outside of work (great artist, compassionate, fun to bring to parties, etc.)

Covered in designer logos

Think you need to broadcast wealth in order to be treated well by others

Practice wearing “blank canvas” pieces and only accenting with logos to emphasize that people value you for more than your labels

Live in your “mom outfit” of jeans and a hoodie

Put the needs of your family before your own

Take more “me time.” Remember: When mom isn’t happy, nobody is.

What Your Clothes Say Table: Forbes

9 Common Misconceptions About Emotions

1. There is always a right way to feel about situations.
2. Letting people know we feel bad is a weakness.
3. Feeling angry is bad.
4. Being emotional means out of control.
5. Some painful emotions are from a bad attitude.
6. Painful emotions should just be ignored.
7. If others feel emotions are unrealistic, it is true.
8. Negative feelings are bad.
9. Other people are better judges of how one should feel.

Have any of us felt like any of our emotions were untrue? Our emotions are our own. Some emotions are very uncomfortable and others  can be very joyful and bring elation. There truly is nothing wrong with inner or outer happiness. 

There is no right or wrong way to feel in any given situation. Its how we “react” to a situation. If we feel bad about it situation its “ok”. If we desire to let someone we trust know about our emotions it is NOT a weakness. In fact, it is a strength. If we feel angry about our emotions, that is not wrong or erroneous. If we “control” our emotions, it will keep us from being out of control. Emotions can be very painful and they do NOT come from a bad attitude. Example. Attending a funeral is a sad event and can be very painful for individuals. It is false, that it is a bad attitude. It is a very common sadness (an emotion) is a common feeling. It is unrealistic if others feel our emotions are not true. 

Acceptance of self along with our feelings is a step to feeling whole. Negative feelings are can be a protection for ourselves. If we feel negative about some thing, we should acknowledge that.  There is a reason for negativity as well as being positive.

Others can not tell us how we should feel. Emotions are a gift and we need to take ownership of them. They are our very own and we need to knead them, shape them and cherish them along with express them to the best of our abilities at the time. Secrets keep us sick.