A Motherless Daughter

Its Mothers Day again. “Good morning mom. Happy Mothers Day!” Yes, I even said those words today to her in hopes where ever she is, she will sense my love for her still.

What I’ve learned from my mother looking back at the 92 years with her are many things. Even in the journey of loss and the mountain of grief these last two and half years.

I recall the schedules we use to always have by gathering around the kitchen table as family. Mothers Day is a family day together and even if they are not with us on this side of the cosmos they are within us. Therefore, start up the grills! Bring out the buns and condiments along with the hot dogs. 

What comes to mind is a mothers job description.

Job Description: Long term, eternal

Responsibilities: See that the kids are clothed, fed, teeth brushed and have their homework done. This is called, Home Work Patrol. Be willing to lay awake at night waiting for the teenager of the family to bring home the family car safe and sound and the teen also. Be willing  to travel. Should have some knowledge of soccer, softball and
skinned knees. Must be willing to face stimulating technical problems such plugged toilets, gadget repair and zippers that are stuck. Must have organizational skills. Screen calls, maintain calendars and social events. Must be indispensable one minute, frazzled and embarrassed the next. Finally, must be conscious of cheap toys and safety. Know when to hold them, know when to fold them before explosion. Smile so your teeth hurt. 
To put it briefly, the candidate must be a chef, a nurse, taxi driver, tutor, keep secrets, hair stylist and janitor. 

Benefits: Butter fly kisses, burp messes, and lots of love.


Will be with family today knowing that its moms day and she would want it that way. She will be with us in mind and spirit. Geeee, I wonder if she liked a hot dog since we’re grilling!

Happy Mothers Day to All who have chosen to apply for this job.


And Another City Cries!

Another shooting in the city.
Another murder in the city.
Another family ruined.
What is the city doing?

This song comes to mind and nooo I’m not communing with Elvis. Our city had another shooting and murder and statistic. Many mamma’s cry tonite.

As the snow flies
On a cold and gray Chicago mornin’
A poor little baby child is born
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

And his mama cries
Cause if there’s one thing that she don’t need
It’s another hungry mouth to feed
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

People, don’t you understand
The child needs a helping hand
Or he’ll grow to be an angry young man some day
Take a look at you and me,
Are we too blind to see,
Do we simply turn our heads

And look the other way
Well the world turns
And a hungry little boy with a runny nose
Plays in the street as the cold wind blows
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

And his hunger burns
So he starts to roam the streets at night
And he learns how to steal
And he learns how to fight
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

Then one night in desperation
A young man breaks away
He buys a gun, he steals a car,
He tries to run, but he don’t get far
And his mama cries
As a crowd gathers ’round an angry young man
Face down on the street with a gun in his hand
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

As her young man dies,
On a cold and gray Chicago mornin’,
Another little baby child is born
In the ghetto
(In the ghetto)

And his mama cries

Elvis Presley ~ The Ghetto Lyrics

Good Friday

My Mish Mash and Ramblings

The time is here again where we reflect on the season and purpose of Good Friday. To Christians, it’s a day of loss and grief for their Lord. A figure who is worshiped and glorified throughout the year. This is also a day of “sacrifice”.

Many of us throughout the year feel pain, emotionally and some physically through disease and strife. Can any of us really feel the pain that Christ felt on this day and most importantly, the pain that was felt for us? The ridicule and to use today’s term, bullying on the path of Via Dolorosa (Latin ~ Path of Grief) and the Old Street of Jerusalem.

How many Christians would raise their hand and say, “I’ll go Jesus. You stay here”?

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What your clothes say about you!

Does anyone realize your clothes can say a lot about you? It can say, what your employment is, emotions are, spending habits are  along with our ambitions. Then of course, we have the determining factor the “weather”. 

Shopping and spending come from emotions, experiences and culture. As the saying goes, which isn’t true, one can judge a man by his shoes and its that simple. Many Americans
use dress and style as a social and economical indicator since there is no real caste system.  Remember the black and white business affair with skirts and black heals or pumps? A little historical in today’s time, although, may still exist. Again, in the hierarchy in today’s society.  This becomes a classic because on the other hand, it always seems to work with the young, old and professional. 

Many wear just what they feel like (emotion) instantaneously. This certainly doesn’t mean one is unsuccessful only that one has not taken the time to make the effort. It does come across badly in some settings. In this case, a person should not choose to dress how one feels, but wants to feel. Which clothes make one feel powerful, in control, wealthy, and confident. Clothes send messages not only to others but ourselves. Below you will find a table that I found very interesting. This may give us some in site as to how we come across to others and how we feel about ourselves on a given day. Enjoy the day, moment and your clothes. minimonmonarch

If you …

You might …


Keep every piece of clothing you’ve ever owned

Be clinging to the past through the sentimental value of your pieces

Adopting the Golden Wardrobe Ratio: Get rid of 2 out of 3 items you own, including anything too big/small, ripped/torn or outdated.

Wear only neutrals, largely devoid of accessories

Be stuck in a psychological rut, too comfortable to shake it up, or too afraid to draw attention to yourself.

Deviating from your routine in small ways (a different route to work, a few new spring accessories–like these inexpensive ways to incorporate trendy polka dots–to jog your brain into feeling excited

Dress in clothing too large for your body

See your body differently than others see it, or as a reflection of the way it once was.

Bringing an honest friend shopping to find out what looks great on you, ignoring sizes and getting used to wearing clothes that really fit.

Have been told you’re dressed inappropriately or too sexily

Consider the same outfit appropriate for every occasion (i.e. clubbing and family barbecue), or be looking for the wrong kind of attention.

Consider the image you want to project in given situations (at work, on the town) and choose outfits based on cues from those around you

Dress too young (or too old) for your age

Be trying to express the age you feel you are, but getting caught between your actual and internal age

Gearing your outfits toward your goals (like getting a promotion, meeting a significant other, traveling the world), rather than a specific age.

Are always in work clothes

Value yourself primarily through your work and work-related accomplishments

Recognizing your talents outside of work (great artist, compassionate, fun to bring to parties, etc.)

Covered in designer logos

Think you need to broadcast wealth in order to be treated well by others

Practice wearing “blank canvas” pieces and only accenting with logos to emphasize that people value you for more than your labels

Live in your “mom outfit” of jeans and a hoodie

Put the needs of your family before your own

Take more “me time.” Remember: When mom isn’t happy, nobody is.

What Your Clothes Say Table: Forbes

Your Favorite Book While Growing Up!

How many of us had a favorite book to read during elementary school or a series book that we absolutely had to read? It comes to my mind today is my Nancy Drew books that I cherished. I would always search for the next book in the series of the mystery. I truly believe, this shaped my interest in suspense and mystery today.


This series started in 1930 and ran until 2003. As the series moved along, a cell phone was even introduced in one of the mysteries. A great read for 6.5-8 grade reading level.

I even picked two up at a rummage sale to see if it still has its appeal after some decades. Can you remember your favorite readings?penguin

Biting My Tongue

I was trying to stay out of politics here but with all the stamping of feet, pounding of drums, breaking of store windows and unadulterated behavior, I can’t hold back.

Its done. The election is over. We have winners and we have losers in any competition. Politics is very important to people even if it goes without saying. Most of the time it does. That is what happened in this election. There was a silent majority. To use an analogy….Custer at Little Big Horn. He was confident and arrogant until after the battle. The Sioux were there but just not seen. 

I don’t need to write an epiphany like some are even though it is a right that we all have. I can’t help but think possibly the two-party system doesn’t work anymore. With the two-party system we need the electoral college, although, even when it was established in 1787, it wasn’t perfect and needed amending. What doesn’t even today?

Hillary laid back and did not lean into the blue states. The states that determined the election. Why not? To me, Hillary was a patsy for the Democratic Party because there was no one else to choose from. The Republicans had 16 people to choose from! That is democracy. Choice. That is campaigning.

Now its time to govern with whom we have whether we like it or not. One thing about not having a politician in the WH, it woke up America! We must move on as Americans with spine! The presidency is finite! positive