Recently I lost a dear loved one whom I will miss very much. Although, sitting here having a cup of java, it’s so hard not to reflect. You are probably thinking reflect on what? No not death. Not divorce. Not separation.
How about just reflecting on what is important in our lives and what we place the most value on. Have any of us really taken the time to ask ourselves, “Hey bone head, is that cell phone really that important? The missed call?” Certainly wherever we go (heaven, space) cell phones will be asked to be turned off or none existent.
What comes to mind besides technology in this fast paced world is quality time with those we love and care for. It isn’t always a family member neither. It can also be a pet. Most of all, how much quality time do we spend with those we cherish so much? 5 minutes, 10 minutes a day, maybe a week on vacation spending time with a friend. Maybe quality time is the cell phone. How absurd.
As I sit here at my computer (technology again) mom would come into the den with her walker and sit beside me in a high back chair. She would listen to the click click click and her mind would always wonder what I was doing. Sometimes she was irritable because she wanted to “know” and she had an inquisitive mind. With mom beside me and I clickety-click click clicking the keys, it just came to me that it was offensively impolite. JUST came to me today. Ahemmm. That was NOT quality time.
The quality time was when I stopped, took time and truly felt her presence and gave her my attention along with presence. That is quality time. We were present in each others world. We got to share thoughts with the clickety clack omitted. Our eyes were like windows looking into each others heart.
With that said, ironically we both heard the ticking of a clock in the back ground.
What is quality time to you? Is it quality time? Doesn’t it matter? Are you married to technology that we rudely disregard those who are important to us? Yuk.